My conversation with Google tonight went as follows, "Are you having a bath tonight?"
"Is it critical?" He asked.
"About as critical as you can get" I replied. "In emergency speak you would be on red alert!"
"Can't you smell yourself?
"No I've got a blocked nose" he answered!
"Well you're lucky" I said, "I wish I had."
We regularly have conversations about baths.I've learned that when you have an oppositional autistic teenager it pays to take a laid back approach.
The more you push the less you achieve.You have to let them think it's their idea, and boy is that hard!
It's natural to worry about what people will think of you when they see your sweaty, spotty, greasy haired teenager, oh and did I mention bad breath?
What I have learned on our autism journey however is that I'm not alone.I've also learned that I can be totally upfront with my son and he doesn't take offence.It's a bit like Temple Grandin in the film Temple Grandin when she was told by her boss that she perspired and needed anti perspirant. She accepted it as a fact rather than a criticism.
Anyway, Google had his bath and the battle was over.But I still have a long way to go before I win the war!
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